Xander is in the house

[unclejimbo]

And he is not all that thrilled about it...

Oh I know, the fact that he is grieving the loss of his foster family (and they grieving for his loss) is supposed to happen when there has been good, solid emotional bonding with a parent and child. It is just when you are holding him while he cries his little eyes out -- well it will break your heart.

Talked to Dick (Val's husband at Heartsent) and he reassured us that this is a normal part of the process and will get better with time. Getting through this period -- *sigh*

Have to get up in a few hours and get ready to go over to AIT (American Institute in Taiwan) to get his paperwork filed so we can get his visa Wednesday and fly home on Thursday.

It will get better, but we'll take all the good thoughts sent our way as we can get.

That's it for now from Taiwan.

Donna, Jim and Xander

Comments

[varna.livejournal.com]

*Hugs* I love you guys.

Just picture his face the first time you take him to Kona, and he gets to see the beach where you guys were married, and the sea turtles, and the pretty fish I can't pronounce, and feeding breakfast to the mongeese...

Think of that. You'll feel better.

[magaliiiii.livejournal.com]

read donna's post too; i'm sure you expected it would be hard, but it really will get better and he is so lucky to have you two. and vice versa, i'm sure, once he gets out of the crawling-all-over-everything phase ;)

[anahata56.livejournal.com]

Aw...

Good thoughts to all of you in this transition time, and in the days to come.

[amizadai.livejournal.com]

Poor Xanxan. Poor Jim and Donna. I can't imagine anything that would have prepared any of you guys for this. But look ahead, this will pass. Kids are extremely resilient. And so are you guys. : )

[poetpaladin.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. Yes it's natural and bound to happen. But he will grow to love you two every day.

You can say "Baba ai nee!" (Daddy loves you.)

[unclejimbo.livejournal.com]

If you have some time, we could really use some help with translation. He is much more talkative than we were lead to believe and there is a huge communication gap to fill. Any help will be appreciated.

[dandelion-diva.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry this is such a tough transition. I agree that it will absolutely get better. Which doesn't make now any easier.

Loads of good thoughts and vibes are on their way.